4th Ted Talks

Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability

A summary

             In the lecture, Brene Brown talks about her research, how our vulnerability work in our life.  She reports that her research about vulnerability plays important roles in changing her way to live and love. The reason people have trouble in connection is shame, and it is based on people's belief that they are not enough. She discovers that shame is worked by people who have strong love and feeling of happiness and they worry about the sense of love and belonging though they have strong feeling of love and belonging. After discovering that, she decided to figure out common features of these people and named the project "the whole hearted". The similar features these people have are courage, compassion, and connection. Courage means “be perfect” and means people have “the whole hearts”. In addition to that, they have compassion, strong feeling of sympathy for others being in troubles and a desire to help them, to themselves and others. Furthermore, she defines that connection is what the whole hearted people have and the by-products of compassion. Finally, she points out  vulnerability as forth common feature and says it makes people express their love and doing something for others with no grantee. She says though vulnerability is the key of love, joy, or creativity, people's negative attitudes toward it. However, people can easily feel they are vulnerable at many moments in their life and are frustrated.  She recommends that we should allow ourselves be seen vulnerably by others  and give love to others without condition and practice feeling thank for others’ kindness. The most important thing people should do is believing they are enough as we are.

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A Response

          I was fascinated by her ideas when I only see the tile of the video. Her projects which study how our vulnerability works in our life shows me that if we feel we are vulnerable it doesn’t mean we are weak or incapable.  I agree with her ideas that people who find connecting others difficult feel the strong sense of love and happiness when they are with people around them. That’s because if people do not have affection about others, they do not need to worry about connection with others and not need to straggle to solve it. Sometimes I am hurt by people around me such as family, or close friends since I love them so much. What’s more, in the lecture, she says we should not pretend to be strong or be perfect and let you be seen deeply and vulnerably by others. I am for her ideas and believe if we accept we are valuable, it would easy for us to connect people and communicate with them since we can sincerely express our feelings when we do not pretend to be fine. However, as she struggled to change her attitude toward “venality”, it would hard for us to fix our attitude since we all want to be strong and perfect in front of others.

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